Confidence

26th August, 2015

Now that's a bold statement to say. In this world where acceptance is everything, we find it hard to let go of what society thinks of us, despite what we say on our social networks. Let's face it, we DO care what others think of us not just as a social-life-indicator, but as a self-esteem-booster as well. It truly takes a lot of trials for us to realize that it's quite alright not to be accepted the way we are. It takes a highly mature mind to stay strong on who we are and stop projecting ourselves as objects of others' interests. I was so lost in that tangle that I would rarely speak out of fear of failure or ridicule. When engaged in a conversation, I would reply after so much thought that it wouldn't be surprising if I seemed slow in the mind. Oh, and group conversations were like don't-even-ask. I would steer clear of groups as much as possible because at that time, it only seemed logical to me that, if I said something wrong in front of one person, I would be laughed at, but if I slipped up in a group, well, it would be a thousand times more embarrassing, what with so many people to make fun of me.
Not only does that show how weak my self-esteem was, not able to speak for myself, but it also shows how low I thought of other people, not respecting them enough to be myself. And there in lies the key to this whole issue. It's all about how much you respect yourself and others to be yourself, for the world deserves nothing less than your true self, however quirky, stupid, weird or crazy you are. If you are yourself, your passion will shine through your words, it will light up your face, it will bring a sort of sparkle in your eye and when that happens, you will be guided by that energy within you to say and do the "right" things (things that you are totally confident about). Others will probably be too mesmerized by your awesome aura to even remember to criticize you (if that is what they truly intend to do). And the best part, even if they do openly criticize or express their opinion to you, you will not fight for it. Yes, you may enjoy a good conversation at that point.. But you are at peace within, knowing you have done well. Knowing that you are all you can be. And that knowledge shall be your confidence.